Wedding Challenges – Making a Catholic Wedding as Non-Catholic as Possible (Readings)

Hey everybody! Long time no post! XD  I thought I’d get on for a little bit and share my upcoming wedding challenges.

Rana and Taren_Me and Jake

Consider this us until we get a more formal picture done. XD

I’m having a Catholic wedding, and no I am not converting back to Catholicism. I have put my mother through a lot in terms of religious trauma (or whatever you want to call it), although I feel most of her pains are of her own making, not mine. I’d like to give her this favor by getting married in the church. That, and the fiance’s family is pretty religious in general, so I figure it will work out best for both parties. I don’t mind having a Catholic ceremony for them, so there’s no problem there. The issue is trying to avoid as much religious overtones as possible for my own sanity.

BibleI’ve hit my first difficulty today, sitting down for a first look at what readings I will use during the mass. (For those who aren’t aware, the Catholic wedding includes a full mass, which the bride and groom can plan down to each song.) There is an Old Testament reading, New Testament reading, a responsorial psalm, and a Gospel reading. The Old Testament and New Testament readings aren’t too difficult to do while avoiding the emphatic mention of God, but the Gospel has been a bit tricky, and the psalm is all but impossible to avoid. Every line in the Book of Psalms is “The Lord is,” this or that or great or powerful or worthy of this or that. I’m planning on discussing with our officiant, an old Brother from our youth group years who is now a priest and knows us well enough to understand our non-Catholic approach to the whole thing (lucky for us).  The closest reading I can find in psalms that I might be able to get away without a mention of God is actually, conveniently, one of my favorites; Psalms 23: 2-5.

He leads me beside still waters;
He restores my soul. He leads me in right paths For His Name’s sake.
Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I fear no evil;
For you are with me;
Your rod and Your staff – they comfort me.
You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies, You anoint my head with oil;
My cup overflows.

Basically, if I can avoid using the “The Lord is my shepherd” line (Psalms 23: 1) then I’m golden! But that will likely have to be chorus… Ah well, win some lose some I suppose. It’s only one song and it only lasts about 2 minutes max.

For now, this is the only religious issue I’ve had, although keep in mind we haven’t started the pseudo-Pre Canna classes yet, nor have we met with our priest and all that fun stuff. Hopefully all of that will go just as smoothly as the readings. I’ll try to keep everyone posted. ^_^

 

Please don’t be upset with me, but with the wedding plans now underway, I will likely be on a longer haitus than expected. It is possible, though, that I will come back every once in a while with an update or a poem or something. I’ll try to stay alive virtually for you all. Until next time! Cheers!